| This has been banged into the developing brains | | | | are in control of their own actions. They do it to |
| of tiny tots since taking their first steps. Whether | | | | prove mainly to themselves, that they have |
| you were playing kickball or four-square, you | | | | control over their own actions. However, when |
| were probably told the same. Why does society | | | | this happens it becomes a gloomy game of who |
| as a whole, put such an emphasis on this mere | | | | can hurt who more. The relationship has drastically |
| fact to sway the minds of their maturing youth? | | | | drifted from tender to tragic and the focal point |
| Why is the concept of cheating so frowned upon? | | | | of the union becomes much less focused on love |
| The answer seems to be found in the truths of | | | | as it morphs into a selfish competition. The reason |
| classical conditioning used in Pavlov's Dog | | | | men and women stay in these unhealthy |
| experiments; if you train something enough on a | | | | relationships is because not many people like to |
| concept, it will become second nature, or so you | | | | admit they've lost control, so they are constantly |
| hope. | | | | trying to prove to themselves and to others, that |
| As you get older, you learn that the decisions you | | | | they have still it. The cruel reality of the situation |
| make don't necessarily only effect just you | | | | is that even as adults, cheaters never win. |
| anymore. You slowly become aware that the | | | | What people don't realize is that true character |
| spectrum of 'feelings' extends far beyond yourself | | | | and true love, is being given the power to |
| and sometimes you're able to actually control the | | | | completely destroy someone, but choosing not to. |
| way someone else could feel. This realization is | | | | When a relationship works out, it's a true balance |
| often made at the same time that people begin | | | | of spirit. The good inside yourself finds the good in |
| fall into relationships. It is hoped that if you're told | | | | someone else and you want nothing more than to |
| enough about the consequence of cheating, then | | | | feed off of that euphoria and make it last. You |
| you'll learn early on that you do not want to do it | | | | expend all of your energy to make the other |
| because it won't work out to your best interest. | | | | person happy yet instead of being exhausted, |
| However, despite this classical conditioning that | | | | you're more alive then you've ever known and |
| people's parents spend years training on, people | | | | none of it feels like work. Rooted deep down in |
| still cheat. When somebody cheats in a | | | | your chromosome construction you know that if |
| relationship, it is the direct result of power abuse. | | | | it came down to it, you'd sacrifice anything for |
| Cheating is never an accident. Drunken, late-night | | | | the well-being of that person simply because you |
| blunders occur because people want them to. | | | | believe they deserve to shine. Love is the burning |
| However, nobody admits this because they would | | | | realization that you were not alive, not until that |
| look shallow, insecure and vulnerable. So people | | | | very moment when you knew. Once you know |
| lean on cocktails as a society-approved crutch. | | | | this you don't worry about what's going to |
| So why do people cheat? It certainly is human | | | | happen because wherever this life may lead you, |
| nature to want to win. When someone in a | | | | you'll always know that your life will be forever |
| relationship flexes their control, the other party | | | | sweeter knowing that their soul exists. |
| may purposely rebel and stray to show that they | | | | |