Ways to Boost your Self-Esteem

All relationships and dating prospects start withimportant relationships. Putting things on paper is
you, your attitude and your level of self-esteem.taking action. Taking action leads to results.
Are you happy with where you are in your life?Results bring feelings of success. Success boosts
Are you content with your career? Are youself-esteem. Do not under-estimated the power
motivated? Is something missing? Are you afraidof writing. Written goals are different and more
to start dating? If so, then you need apowerful than roaming thoughts.
self-esteem boost.Ask yourself if you are in a good place,
Take a sheet of paper and a pen and makeemotionally and mentally. Be honest. Do you fear
three columns.relationships? Are you sure you want to enter
1. In the first column, list your long-term goals, i.e.,into a loving relationship? Make another list, with
where you want to be in one year.pros and cons about dating and/or serious
2. In the second, list your short-term goals, i.e.,relationships. Are you interested in a long-term
where you want to be in one month.loving relationship or something lighter, like dating
3. In the third, list the ways that you can possiblyoccasionally? At least this way, you will really
reach those goals.know if you really want to be involved with
Example:someone and to what extent. Honesty will
COLUMN 1:Want a serious, loving relationshipdefinitely raise your levels of self-esteem. If you
COLUMN 2: Want to start datingdon't know what you want, or accept something
COLUMN 3:Start datingthat you're really not sure you want then the
Now, take a second sheet of paper and makeconsequences will only lead to lowering your
another list with three columns.self-esteem and confidence. Therefore, misleading
1. In the first column write about your positivegoals will affect your self-esteem and that will
attributes.affect your life and relationships.
2. In the second, write about your negativeIf you believe that someone can make you
attributes.happy, you're wrong. I am sure you've heard the
3. In the third, write some action you can take tosaying, "Happiness Comes from Within". Find out
change the negative attributes into positive ones.what brings you down and work on that. You can
A simple example:make yourself happy by learning more about you
COLUMN 1: I am very lovingand what makes you unhappy. Love yourself in
COLUMN 2: I am edgy/blowup easilyorder for others to love you back.
COLUMN 3: Count to 10 before speaking whenThe bottom line is that confidence, self-esteem
irritatedgoes hand in hand with success, dating, love and
Simple lists like these can improve your lifeeverything in between. So follow the steps above
immensely, including dating prospects and otherto get your self-esteem boost.